In the church I belong to, (The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints) the youth are broken up into groups by age. There is the Primary which is ages 18 months to 11 years of age. Then there is the YoungMen/YoungWomen who are ages 12-18. I am over the Young Women ages 12-18. Particularly the age 14-15 age group.
I don't know if it is just me....... or if we live in a society that suppresses our emotions and feelings. I know that I am by nature a peace maker. I don't like confrontation at all. I don't like to rock the boat. But, if you cross The Native's, The SM, or the youth in my church, my friends........ I become a big huge ugly green mess of rage. I'll put on my boxing gloves and go the full 9 rounds. It's 9 rounds right?
Then why pray tell, do I not do the same for myself? I came to a conclusion last night. I gave myself permission because I want the youth I am over, especially the young women to know, they can fight back. They can stand up for themselves and it is okay. It is okay to feel anger and frustration when we are being attacked in anyway. Emotionally, physically, verbally, etc.
I know for me, I honestly do try so hard to do what is right and be Christ-like. Shocking...... I know. I realized last night though, that suppressing our feelings is not what the Savior would do! He gets angry! Our Heavenly Father gets angry! It's righteous anger but it is anger never the less! What we do with the anger determines if we are being Christ-like.
Years ago when I placed my daughter for adoption I remember my father telling me that it was okay to mourn. It was okay to take that time to mourn. He cautioned me not to let it consume me; mourn and then move on with my life.
I think it is the same with things that are upsetting in our lives. Go ahead and be angry. Don't let it consume, but go ahead and feel those feelings and then move on. Let the Savior's grace take it from us and become better people because of it...
Am I making any sense??